Talking Menopause at Work

Episode 488 | Host: Emilie Aries | Guest: Dr. Jen Gunter

How much do you really know about menopause?

Disclaimer: This episode discusses medical topics but is not a substitute for professional medical advice.

Menopause is as natural as puberty and affects almost everyone with a uterus, and yet it’s long been a taboo subject in polite society. For centuries, women suffered in silence, but that’s slowly beginning to change. 

Dr. Jen Gunter is a big instigator in this shift to the dissemination of good intel on menopause. Dr. Jen is an obstetrician and gynecologist with more than three decades of experience. Her first two books, The Vagina Diaries and The Menopause Manifesto, became popular bestsellers, and she recently released her third book, Blood: The Science, Medicine, and Mythology of Menstruation

Through channels such as her 2020 TED Talk, her blog The Vajenda, and her podcast Body Stuff with Dr. Jen Gunter, she is elevating facts above fiction and teaching women about their reproductive systems—something we should have learned in high school. In our conversation, Dr. Jen and I dig into the myths and realities of menopause and how this transition affects women in the workplace.

Menopause is finally getting its due

Dr. Jen is well-known today for educating women about menopause. Her first book, however, didn’t focus on this topic. During the book tour for The Vagina Bible, interview after interview wound up circling back to the single chapter she had devoted to menopause, and she realized people don’t know as much about this life stage as she had assumed.

For centuries, ageism has affected women uniquely, and our relevance has been perceived to drop when we can no longer become pregnant. This perspective isn’t helped by blatant inequities in the U.S. healthcare and health insurance systems, which offer far better coverage for issues that impact mostly men than those that impact mostly women.

When we reach menopause, we have already gone through an under-explained puberty, and a lot of us have experienced under-explained pregnancies. By the time we hit the third kick of the natural-processes-we-don’t-know-enough-about can, we’re fed up.

Today, Gen X is coming up on or already experiencing menopause. Because they’re more comfortable sharing their experiences on social media than previous generations, we are beginning to hear more and more about the real experiences of real people. Dr. Jen and the other medical professionals who have recently released books on menopause are more than willing to meet us where we’re at and lend their expertise to further our knowledge.

What is menopause?

Without a decent education in the menstrual cycle, it’s pretty tricky to understand what happens in menopause. But just like puberty and pregnancy, menopause is totally normal and vastly different for everyone. For example, Dr. Jen points out that some people cite pregnancy as the best they ever felt, while others barely get through it. Either of those options and anything in between—that’s mirrored in the menopause experience, too. 

This is not to pooh-pooh the fact that the menopause transition can be really chaotic. Your hormones are all over the place, and this upset can last anywhere from four to ten years. Contrary to popular belief, symptoms of menopause don’t start after the last period—they can begin well before this and last throughout.

Menopause at work

One big indicator of just how much menopause has grown in the public eye is the section dedicated to it in Deloitte’s 2024 Women @ Work Report (which I explored in episode 469, Surprising Trends Impacting Women at Work). Specifically, the report notes that “more women are working through the symptoms [of menopause], and far fewer feel supported.” A striking 40% of women (compared to 20% in 2023) who report high levels of menopause-related pain and discomfort work through it, and only 19% feel supported when sharing the reason for their symptoms with their employers. While those numbers aren’t great, the recognition of them could be a sign of changes ahead.

Dr. Jen outlines some of the common symptoms that are a bit less well-known than the highly publicized hot flashes, any of which can impact the workday. In the transition phase, periods continue, but they often become more erratic. As such, unexpected heavy bleeding spells can develop at inopportune times. 

Brain fog is another big one, and while the cause isn’t clear—it could be hormone level changes, poor sleep due to hot flashes, or disruptions in brain chemistry—Dr. Jen stresses that experts do know that it reverses and that studies show women are often performing better than they think they are during these murky moments.

Depression is another symptom of menopause, and it’s most likely to affect those who already have a history. In fact, this is true of most of the symptoms. Menopause uncovers biological vulnerabilities, Dr. Jen explains, so “if it’s something that’s only going to be appreciated at a low tide, and you have more low tides, that’s going to manifest itself.” While this is concerning, it’s also comforting to know that it’s normal and, in most cases, will pass.

Advocating for better workplace accommodations

I asked Dr. Jen about her vision for an ideal workplace where menopause and similar experiences are accepted or even celebrated. 

“I think people should approach it like it isn’t a big deal,” she says. Managers should think about the existing structure of their workplaces, Dr. Jen suggests, and consider how someone experiencing more medical issues than average would function in that environment. What could be added to existing initiatives to show that a wider range of temporary experiences are being considered? This could include allowances for taking an unexpected afternoon off (to deal with sudden bleeding) and adjustments to the ambient temperature (to address intense hot flashes). 

Then, there are the obvious additions some workplaces are beginning to include but so many still need to embrace, such as having menstrual products in every washroom and remaining mindful of the variable financial burdens linked to our inequitable health care.

Dr. Jen shares so much more menopause medical wisdom in the episode, and I would love to hear your thoughts. If you’re navigating menopause at work right now—what’s it like? Or, if you have colleagues in this boat, what have you noticed about how your team is addressing the situation? 

Chime in on the Courage Community on Facebook or our group on LinkedIn, or drop me a line right here to share what’s shifted for you after this conversation and what you’d like to hear discussed further on the Bossed Up podcast.

Related links from today’s episode:

The Menopause Manifesto: Own Your Health with Facts and Feminism by Dr. Jen Gunter

Blood: The Science, Medicine, and Mythology of Menstruation by Dr. Jen Gunter

The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina: Separating the Myth from the Medicine by Dr. Jen Gunter

The Vajenda, Dr. Jen’s blog

Jensplaining with Dr. Jen Gunter

The 2024 Deloitte Women @ Work Report

Episode 469, Surprising Trends Impacting Women at Work

Episode 414, New Rights for Pregnant Workers 

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