How We Get Over Overwork to Build a Better Life

Episode 472 | Host: Emilie Aries | Guest: Brigid Schulte

What individual, organizational, and policy changes can transform the daily grind into the good life?

Sometimes, the conversation around women in the workplace feels like it’s stalled. So many of us speak out and speak up about the problems and inequity we see every day, and yet insufficient individual “hacks” remain the most common recommendations. This lack of broader change belies the deeply systemic issues at play here. Adjustments to these systems could improve the ability—of women and everyone else—to live and work in a more sustainable, harmonious way.

One of my favorite authors—whom I tend to quote on this podcast—has quite literally written the book on what’s up with women in the workplace, workers’ rights, and our ongoing struggle to achieve a balanced, joyful life. Brigid Schulte is director of New America’s Better Life Lab think tank and the author of 2014’s best-seller Overwhelmed: How to Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time. Her new book, Over Work: Transforming the Daily Grind in the Quest for a Better Life, drops today, so what better time for us to discuss what her research has revealed about our continuing struggle to make work actually work for us?

America’s broken work culture

After Brigid wrote Overwhelmed, she was moved to more deeply explore a problem she was familiar with: if she doesn’t have enough time or energy to successfully and joyfully balance parenthood, career, and leisure, then it’s all her fault—she obviously isn’t trying hard enough. Sound familiar?

Her research over the next decade revealed the alarming number of workplace structures and cultural attitudes that reinforce this feeling of personal failure that so many of us are left with a society that has set us up to fail by placing work and caretaking at irreconcilable odds. Though what she found proved that she was far from alone in her struggle, it also painted a depressingly clear picture of just how problematic our systems are, for everyone, but particularly for women.

The trouble with the American Dream

This familiar struggle can be traced back to the American Dream narrative. It’s a favored term, and at its root, it assures us that in this land of opportunity, only we stand in the way of our own success. If we work hard and dedicate ourselves to our craft, we will be successful. This staunch individualist perspective leaves us with only two possible outcomes: get successful or feel guilt and shame because we haven’t made it. But when we look at the details behind the growing number of people in that latter camp, it’s pretty hard to blame their work ethic alone. 

What Brigid calls the “crapification” of American jobs has resulted in 44% of the workforce being considered low-wage; the federal minimum wage hasn’t risen since 2009; and CEOs who made about 60 times their workers’ salaries in the 1960s now make 400–1000 times. 

As Brigid explains, “People are working harder and harder and getting less and less.” Better jobs simply aren’t available; plus, the deeply ingrained belief that care work isn’t valuable leaves most of those jobs (⅔ of which are held by women) underpaid, if they’re paid at all. Look no further than this chart from the Economic Policy Institute to understand that the vast increase in worker productivity in America over the past 50+ years has simply lined the pockets of the uber-wealthy in ways we’ve never seen before throughout history:

 
 

“Work” beyond paid work

In The Story of Work: A New History of Humankind, Jan Lucassen defines work as “all activity that is not leisure” and shares many proposed and implemented changes around the world that embrace this concept. We’re trained to think of work as exclusively what we do for pay. As a result, only this subset is taken into consideration when measuring GDP and the economic health of our country.

Unpaid work, while equally (and, arguably, more) important to the functioning of our society, is relegated to “a shadow sphere that is undervalued and almost invisible,” says Brigid. Paid work that reflects the same care-centered values, such as teaching and nursing (i.e., professional caregiving), is also undervalued and, as a result, underpaid. Brigid asks: Why do principals make so much more than teachers or janitors so much more than domestic cleaners? 

“We have a sense that a labor of love shouldn’t be part of the market.” The problem with this belief is reflected in the workplace and life balance issues we face. In Over Work, Brigid uses the stories of changemakers striving to fix this problem to imbue this dire situation with hope.

The organizational change we need

Bossed Up shares a lot of individual ways to seize back control of our so-called work/life balance, but when we focus too heavily on these reactive options, we run the risk of perpetuating the American Dream mythology—that unsustainable workplace culture is your fault and your problem to fix. Brigid stresses that a combination of individual, organizational, and policy efforts are needed to foster meaningful change. 

Over a decade of research, Brigid’s findings kept returning to a singular root for organizational solutions: leadership mindset, particularly at the middle-management level. Middle managers have a lot of power to transform the workplace cultures they oversee every day. Brigid profiles numerous creative leaders who took the reins and built innovative, flexible workplaces that listen and learn from the experiences of their frontline workers on the ground.

It’s the power of story, the former journalist explains. “Everything we believe comes from a story we’re told,” and if leaders speak only to those at their level or above in the pecking order, it’s little wonder they hear stories about how well the status quo works. When wealthy white men, for instance, don’t seek the input of the 70% of workers—particularly women workers—with regular care responsibilities, they aren’t moved to implement flexible working hours or shorter work weeks. 

In our conversation, Brigid outlines even more organizational and policy initiatives that could transform our care infrastructure and level the playing field across the country. She hopes to disseminate “truer and more positive narratives to get us going in a nationwide, beneficial direction.” From paid leave for all to worker voices on boards, the ideas—and the solid evidence of their success—are out there. We need to turn up the volume on those stories to drown out the poisonous and outdated ones that persist.

What stands out to you from Brigid’s research and ideas for a better economy and working world? How are you inspired to advocate for the good life, both for yourself and at an organizational or policy level? Share your thoughts on this topic and engage with others in our Courage Community on Facebook or our group on LinkedIn.

Related links from today’s episode:

Over Work: Transforming the Daily Grind in the Quest for a Better Life

Overwhelmed: How to Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time

Discover More About Brigid

Connect with Brigid on LinkedIn

Learn More About the Better Life Lab

The Economic Policy Institute’s Productivity Pay Gap

Harvard Business School Study

The Sum of Us: What Racism Costs Everyone and How We Can Prosper Together by Heather McGhee

Workism Is Making Americans Miserable by Derek Thompson

The Story of Work: A New History of Humankind by Jan Lucassen

Episode 452, Redefining Success: Women and the Fight for a Fair Economy

Episode 440, The Problem With Self-Help

Episode 468, Disrupting Elder Care: We Need To Talk More About Working Daughters

Episode 456, How Connection Can Cure What Ails Us

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